Plus-ones at weddings - yay or nay?
This is one area of our wedding guest list that MT and I totally agreed on - we only invited guests with plus-ones if they were in a serious relationship. We had tons of young people at our wedding and almost everyone already knew each other so we didn’t feel like anyone would have trouble flying solo. It turned out to be pretty fun…
Also, budget and numbers were a key consideration - weddings add up quickly!
According to The New York Times etiquette column (thanks PBF for the link!):
“Today’s standard plus-one is someone who is married to, engaged to, living with and, yes, in a long-term relationship with the invited wedding guest. Beyond these ‘must invites,’ your plus-one decisions will be based on budget and consistency. If it’s only a few and it’s not a budget buster, you might consider asking them all. But if that’s not the case (and let’s be realistic here), come up with a clear parameter. Even so, without a plus-one invitation, some of your single guests may not want to attend. In the end, that’s their choice.”
I’d love to hear how everyone else dealt with the plus-one debate!
-
buttononde liked this
-
tinkerbellrun said:
Ha, we had a +1! Just the two of us +1 judge ;-P
-
lovelifethemost liked this
-
cmconnors said:
Our wedding was a lot of younger people but also destination so we invited everyone with a plus one. The majority of my friends without serious significant others came stag anyway.
-
randalifesabeach liked this
-
almosthalfway said:
we allowed +1 for anyone who was single and assumed they would use common sense in whether they opted to bring a dates. who am i to say that you have to spend the night on your own just because you’re not in a serious relationship?
-
imnotthatkindofgirl liked this
-
juliajane liked this
-
carolynruns said:
We did the same thing—writing “and guest” on invites to those who were in serious relationships. I was shocked at how many people called to ask if they could bring someone or simply responded that two were coming. We’re not rich, people!
-
ladyofleisuredc said:
sorry- misunderstood. I get it now. No, I think that borderlines defining someone else’s relationship for them or validating/non validating it even. Let them self define and bring whoever they’re comfortable with serious relationship or not.
-
ladyofleisuredc liked this
-
valerina said:
We allowed a plus one to everyone. I just thought it was fair.
-
newlywedbalance posted this
